Be Confident, Be YOURSELF!

Stop comparing yourself to others, it's a waste of energy..your inner critic will find 'something' to use against you. Best spend your energy and time on YOU and what YOU have to offer the world and people around you..how you can make a difference, big or small. We are all unique and at the same time just like a snowflake all so very different but just as 'important' as the other 'snowflakes'

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There was a man with four wives. He loved his fourth wife the most and took a great care of her and gave her the best. He also loved his third wife and always wanted to show her off to his friends. However, he was always had a fear that she might runaway with some other man. He loved his second wife too. Whenever he faced some problems, he always turned to his second wife and she would always help him out. He did not love his first wife
though she loved him deeply, was very loyal to him and took great care of him. One day the man fell very ill and knew that he is going to die soon.
He told himself, "I have four wives with me. I will take one of them along with me when I die to keep company in my death."
Thus, he asked the fourth wife to die along with him and keep company. "No way!" she replied and walked away without another word.
He asked his third wife. She said "Life is so good over here. I'm going to remarry when you die".
He then asked his second wife. She said "I'm Sorry. I can't help you this time around. At the most I can only accompany you till your grave."
By now his heart sank and turned cold.
Then a voice called out: "I'll leave with you. I'll follow you no matter
where you go." the man looked up and there was his first wife. She was so skinny, almost like she suffered from malnutrition. Greatly grieved, the man said, "I should have taken much better care of you while I could have!"
Actually, we all have four wives in our lives.
a. The fourth wife is our body. No matter how much time and effort we
lavish in making it look good, it'll leave us when w die.
b. The third wife is our possessions, status and wealth. When we die, they
go to others.
c. the second wife is our family and friends. No matter how close they
had been there for us when we're alive, the furthest they can stay by us is
up to the grave.
d. the first wife is our soul, neglected in our pursuit of material
wealth and pleasure. It is actually the only thing that follows us wherever we go.

Caroline Myss

Surrendering the need for an explanation represents a profound act of personal transformation. What you are releasing is the need for God or the heavens or the Divine to explain the events of your life in a rational way, as if the heavens operated according to the laws of our land and the rules of human interaction. Surrender represents a course correction of our belief that others are responsible for our life and, more to the point, for our pain and failures. It also represents a supreme act of faith that states, "With you, God, all things are possible, including my healing." In saying that prayer, however, you leave it to God to chart the course of possibilities for your healing. As the saying goes, all our prayers are answered, but sometimes the answer is no.

Value is your way out of the trap

You better have some skills in this world. You better bring something to the dinner party or you will be the dinner. You will either have value, or be grist for the mill — nothing more. I know it seems so unfair. I didn't make the rules. The truth is that the world doesn't have much use or respect for "do nothing" people. Can you really blame them? Take some pride in yourself. Get to work. Read everything you can get your hands on. Acquire several skills and find at least one that you can master, and that earns you respect. Let your skills do the talking. Get determined. This world is bursting with opportunity. Maybe it's time you re-invent yourself and try again. Get going. Don't cheat the world or yourself of what you have to offer. You must cultivate value within yourself if you want to move forward. If you feel trapped quit thinking about the trap and start thinking about your value. Life favors value. Value is your way out.

Do you want to prosper? What do you prosper the world? Do you want to flourish in the garden of life? Life's gardeners pluck the weeds and care only for the productive plants. The quality of your life hinges on your attitudes and offerings. Become a gift in the lives of others and you will always be well received. If you want more opportunities you have to become an opportunity for others. As you advance yourself your opportunities advance too. It's so simple. Get to work on yourself. The harder you work on yourself the more the external things you couldn't change, will change on their own. Cultivating your value proposition in life is the way to move forward. You are the raw material of your own destiny.

Gracefully following through natural conflict

Conflict is a natural part of existence. Life is a struggle for survival for every organism at every level. Everyone must "fight" for something at times, though some struggle more than others, and often unnecessarily. Brute force will sometimes get you through a challenge, but usually not without hurting and depleting yourself in the process. Brute physical, intellectual and emotional conflict often causes a great deal of collateral damage. There are gentler and more graceful ways to interface with natural conflict. As you spiritually mature you will begin to look at conflict in less self-centered ways. You will realize that engagement is an option. There is an enlightened way to flow with, in, and through conflict. Learn to resist but do not be un-moveable in your resistance. Resist like the water. Flow. You don't have to win. You don't have to be right. You don't always have to teach the the corrective lesson. Sometimes you can teach the lesson of patience and non-engagement. Be wise. Sometimes it is best to stand back from conflict and allow other elements in someone's life to do the hard work for you. Time is a masterful teacher. Silence is a masterful teacher. When we want to talk, we can instead listen, and let our attentiveness to another's need to speak, be our silent statement. But whatever you do, always do it in love and not anger, and in compassion, not contempt.

When someone is attacking you, they are coming to you for advice. How you react advises them. When someone is vicious toward you they are giving you a glimpse of the pain they carry in themselves. The way you engage someone's pain either reinforces their pain or helps to release it. Be gentle when you can. If you are strong and safe within yourself then be patient and teach your virtues by your calm example. Try to be less reactive. Try to be very kind to yourself and others. Start with one departure from your negative and reactive habits. Instead of assuming, which creates pain and suffering for everyone, be open, curious and expect cooperation. Learn to be light. Have you ever tried to catch a tiny feather floating in the air? It's very hard to do. When you try to grab a tiny floating feather it just flies right around your hand! The more violently you grasp the faster the wind carries it away. In your heart and disposition, be as light as a feather and when they reach for you — you will blow right by their grip; you will effortlessly flow to safety. Be as light as that feather. Have a smile of calm in your heart. Be peaceful. When you walk in peace you will literally see attackers shattering themselves against your inner-calm. They will defeat themselves.

You are being guided when you need it most

What does it even mean when people tell us that we are powerful? We certainly don't feel powerful at times. Being powerful means shifting our minds away from our troubles and into solution-thinking. We can access amazing inner-strengths by focusing on solutions rather than problems. But people often only focus and meditate on their problems, fears, worries and anxieties; playing out endless negative scenarios in their minds. This effectively disables their minds innately brilliant problem solving ability. If you relax your mind, it can begin working for you. Your total intelligence knows how to accomplish astounding feats. You just need a clear objective. Get clear. You will surprise yourself! The answer to your problems is to move forward and believe in yourself, which can seem like risk, but it's not — it's trust. Stretching, reaching and fully embracing your problems head-on will activate your untapped abilities. You would not believe what skill, power and ability your total intelligence possesses until you lose your balance. So stretch! Reach for it. Like falling down stairs, where your inner-genius takes over and saves you — your instincts are ready to serve you. But you have put yourself at risk to activate your instinctual genius.

If your options are closing-in around you and you feel panicked, scared and helpless, this is the time for action. Your greatest moments of challenge are a call to defy your timid habits of safety and rush out into life. This is the time to go out, socialize, meet new people, be around friends and embrace living. When you feel the crushing pressure and you feel paralyzed, don't lay in bed and cover your head with the blanket. This is the time to open your windows, let the sunshine in and breathe the fresh air. Do something profoundly irresponsible like forgetting about your problems for a while: go to a movie, go for a walk, create some art or spend time with a sweet friend. Act as though everything will be perfectly fine — because it will. Life has you and it's not letting you go. Only the frantic of fear can harm you. Your calm and centered self knows exactly what to do. In the moments of your deepest need, despair and desperation, what you need more than any other thing, is calm and faith. Your calm mind is the ultimate weapon against your challenges. So relax. Have faith in your abilities. You are being guided when you need it most — if you will just listen.

You are being guided when you need it most ....!

What does it even mean when people tell us that we are powerful? We certainly don't feel powerful at times. Being powerful means shifting our minds away from our troubles and into solution-thinking. We can access amazing inner-strengths by focusing on solutions rather than problems. But people often only focus and meditate on their problems, fears, worries and anxieties; playing out endless negative scenarios in their minds. This effectively disables their minds innately brilliant problem solving ability. If you relax your mind, it can begin working for you. Your total intelligence knows how to accomplish astounding feats. You just need a clear objective. Get clear. You will surprise yourself! The answer to your problems is to move forward and believe in yourself, which can seem like risk, but it's not — it's trust. Stretching, reaching and fully embracing your problems head-on will activate your untapped abilities. You would not believe what skill, power and ability your total intelligence possesses until you lose your balance. So stretch! Reach for it. Like falling down stairs, where your inner-genius takes over and saves you — your instincts are ready to serve you. But you have put yourself at risk to activate your instinctual genius.

If your options are closing-in around you and you feel panicked, scared and helpless, this is the time for action. Your greatest moments of challenge are a call to defy your timid habits of safety and rush out into life. This is the time to go out, socialize, meet new people, be around friends and embrace living. When you feel the crushing pressure and you feel paralyzed, don't lay in bed and cover your head with the blanket. This is the time to open your windows, let the sunshine in and breathe the fresh air. Do something profoundly irresponsible like forgetting about your problems for a while: go to a movie, go for a walk, create some art or spend time with a sweet friend. Act as though everything will be perfectly fine — because it will. Life has you and it's not letting you go. Only the frantic of fear can harm you. Your calm and centered self knows exactly what to do. In the moments of your deepest need, despair and desperation, what you need more than any other thing, is calm and faith. Your calm mind is the ultimate weapon against your challenges. So relax. Have faith in your abilities. You are being guided when you need it most — if you will just listen.

Faith is your only hope for deliverance by Bryant McGill

There is nothing worse than fear. Fear is worse than cancer, fear is worse than torture, fear is worse than betrayal and fear is even worse than death. Even death itself is made wretched by terror and fear. Fear paralyzes your total being. Imagine a man walking in the woods late at night beginning to panic. He is hyperventilating, spinning-around looking in every direction. He cannot hear what is near him for his own breathing. His heart is racing. He is discombobulated and walking in circles. Predators from afar detect his fear and move-in on him; he is bringing about his own reality. This is how many people move through life. They struggle in fear and alert every evil to come. Everything in life will attack you if it senses your fear; animals, people — but faithful confidence wards off all manner of evil.

Imagine the man lost in the woods who is composed and confident. He accepts he is lost but trusts and leans on his instincts. He is not panicked. His hearing is acute. He is steady and thoughtful. His mind and senses are unclouded and delivering life-saving information. He walks straight and devises plans and systems to stay on course. What is the difference between the fearful person and the fearless person? One has delivered himself to destruction and one to salvation. The fearful person wilts and submits to what they call fate. The fearless negotiates with fate for a compromise. The fearful have lost faith while the fearless allow faith to lead the way. You have to have faith if you want to make it out of the woods. Faith is your only hope for deliverance. Faith is your North Star. Fear is always death. Faith is life. Have faith and your victory is assured.

You Deserve !

Say YES to a bigger life. Experience the fear of making the decision. Then, DO IT. Make the decision to live from a place of power, rather than fear. Make the decision to be true to yourself, to live a life of no regrets.

What people think of you is none of your business. Hold yourself in higher regard. Approve of yourself. Give yourself permission to do what you always wanted to do...because You Deserve.

Experience & Ability

If money is your hope for independence.. you will never have it.. 

The only real security that a man will have in this world is.. 

A reserve of knowledge, 

Experience

And,

Ability.. !!


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You were always stronger than your fear and pain

There is an intelligent healing process inside of you that knows how to absorb pain and transform it into wisdom. But to heal, you have to give yourself to the pain. You cannot avoid facing yourself your whole life. If you avoid your truthful emotions and pain you will implode and contract into a diminished and feeble state. Growth and empowerment requires reflection and facing the frightening, ugly, hard and unbearable reality. People are often clever masters at fooling themselves and not seeing the obvious right in front of them. One of the fastest ways to move through your pain is to get a grip on reality. Real transformation requires real honesty. If you want to move forward — get real with yourself!

When you are avoiding your pain you are really only avoiding your growth. Get up in your pain's face eyeball to eyeball and say, "I'm not afraid of you!" The biggest liar you will ever meet is yourself. It is amazing the lies we tell ourselves because of fear. Stop your lying-mind dead in its tracks; no more running in frantic circles of nonsensical denial. No more blaming. No more neglecting. No more dodging and running. Suck it up. Swallow it. The only end to your pain is through fully consuming it and digesting it, otherwise it will consume you. When you face your fears in the light of openness and honesty they will vanish. We carry many of these dark fears inside of us; frightening forms of mental obstacles that cast shadows on every beautiful possibility.

It is tragic the way fearful people put all of their fears and insecurities into others; the way they strangle their dreams — often in the name of love. Some people run from pain their whole lives, and what pain they do not digest they inflict upon others. You can't run from your pain forever. Avoiding pain causes endless suffering for you and others. Avoiding pain is really selfishness. When you face your pain you will discover you were always stronger than your pain. Your pain was always a fraud; appearing inescapable, unsurmountable and even necessary and a friend. The time has come to say goodbye to the afflictions you have been carrying, nurturing, protecting and empowering. When you truly face your pain you will only see yourself. Your fear was always you. Fear is a prison where you are the jailer. Free yourself! Anything you want is just beyond your fear. Your healing hour has arrived the moment you decide to live fully and powerfully. That moment is now.

Stop mistreating yourself. Be good to yourself. Love Yourself. by Bryant McGill

There is nothing worse than a treacherous, backstabbing double-talker running you down. It is hard to believe it when we have been treated with such disloyalty. Betrayal by those we trust can send us boiling into a panic of anxiety and pain. Just imagine a close friend or relative talking behind your back and whispering about your failures; prognosticating your doom and undermining your best efforts to lift yourself up. This bully is well informed and knows all of your past mistakes, and knows how to use those mistakes against you — a two-faced bully with a fake smile, concealing a tongue like a switch-blade knife. Even worse, what do you do when the traitor is a very close relative; so closely related, that in fact, the betrayer — is you? That's right, you; the voice in your head whispering that, "you aren't good enough; you don't deserve it and you can't!" Maybe the self-inflicted battering is a more subtle, "what will people think, or I don't want to disappoint…", or a clever "helpful" bump to just "try later, there's always tomorrow." Then there is the foulest pummeling; a total beat-down by oneself and to oneself, "You're fat. You're stupid. You're a loser. I hate you! I wish you were dead!"

Maybe you never considered yourself a bully, a batterer or an abuser before, but maybe you are — to yourself. The worst bullies you will ever encounter in your life are your own thoughts. Being overly critical of yourself is like having a relentless, inescapable bully who follows you everywhere you go and abuses you. The worst part about this type of bully is that you can't get rid of them, because it's you. You have to reach out to your inner-abuser and make peace. You can't live your life as your own worst enemy! Go to a mirror and look yourself in the eye, and make peace with yourself. Commit this day to putting your self-hatred and unreasonable doubts and fears behind you once and for all. You are your own essential ally. Get right with yourself. When that inner-voice of doubt whispers against you, have a firm but sweet conversation with yourself, and exert your faith. Healing is a process and could take some time, but begin convincing yourself of your worthiness — no more abuse! Deep in your heart, you know you are good. Your heart knows you are deserving. Your heart knows you are worthy. Your heart knows you are capable. Speak kindly to and of yourself. When the voices of doubt start whispering, turn-up the volume of faith and listen to your heart.

You Have GREATNESS Within You!

Work on changing yourself. There may be times in life when you won't know what's ahead, and you can't control the situations that life throws you in. At the end of the day, despite what happens to you...what matters most is what happens in you.

Make it your business to stay positive and focused on what you see as the best possible outcome for your life. Do the inner work that will help you to maintain a positive attitude, a stronger faith and courage for the road ahead. Remember that miracles are always possible and are waiting for you to discover them. You have GREATNESS within you!

YOU DESERVE!

Love. It's crucial. If you are fortunate, you get to do what you love for a living. If this isn't the case for you right now, find a few moments in your day to do what you love. Too often we prioritize money above all else. We spend countless hours in unfulfilling positions, fortify relationships with folks we would never have as friends, and neglect ourselves, our families and friends to make the almighty dollar.

While supporting oneself is a reality of life, do your best to maintain your authenticity. Be proud of your work. Take part in projects that provide value to others as well as yourself. Remember that you are not defined by your spending ability. Life is more than big homes, fast cars, expensive clothes. Those who truly love you won't care if you have five million or five hundred dollars. They want you to be happy - and you will be, if you make time for who and what you love. You DESERVE!

Everyone Struggles

When you’re struggling that doesn’t make you a burden. It doesn’t make you unlovable or undesirable or undeserving of care. It doesn’t make you too much or too sensitive or too needy. It makes you human. Everyone struggles. Everyone has a difficult time coping, and at times, we all fall apart. During these times, we aren’t always easy to be around — and that’s okay. No one is easy to be around one hundred percent of the time. Yes, you may sometimes be unpleasant or difficult. And yes, you may sometimes do or say things that make the people around you feel helpless or sad. But those things aren’t all of who you are and they certainly don’t discount your worth as a human being. The truth is that you can be struggling and still be loved. You can be difficult and still be cared for. You can be less than perfect, and still be deserving of compassion and kindness.

Let It Go

Holding on to what’s no longer there holds too many of us back. Some of us spend the vast majority of our lives recounting the past and letting it steer the course of the present. Don’t waste your time trying to live in another time and place. Let it GO! You must accept the end of something in order to begin to build something new. So close some old doors today. Not because of pride, inability or egotism, but simply because you’ve entered each one of them in the past and realize that they lead to nowhere worth your while. 


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Be Ready To Learn

Always try to give people you don’t know a fair chance because when you look at a person, any person, remember that everyone has a story. Everyone has gone through something that has changed them, and forced them to grow. Every passing face on the street represents a story every bit as compelling and complicated as yours. We meet no ordinary people in our lives. If you give them a chance, everyone has something amazing to offer. So appreciate the possibility of new relationships as you naturally let go of old ones that no longer work. Trust your judgment. Embrace new relationships, knowing that you are entering into unfamiliar territory. Be ready to learn, be ready for a challenge, and be ready to meet someone that might just change your life forever.

By Iyanla Vanzant

So many of us, although totally unaware of it, live in a constant state of fear. Fear of failure, rejection, the unknown, being alone, and not being in control. Fear enables us to convince ourselves that the poor or failing quality of our lives is caused by something or someone outside of ourselves. When we master our fears, we become courageous and trusting. With courage and trust, no valley is too deep, no challenge too difficult to confront.

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You have GREATNESS within you!

Find your voice. Your voice is the calling card that can never be lost. You have something to say that will open doors, inspire change, heal lives, create momentum, and attract abundance.

Infuse your voice with energy, love and hope. Refuse to be silent about what really matters to you. Speak life and create possibility. Sing your unique tune and tell your own story. Know that your voice...your words...your life...matters!! You have GREATNESS within you!

By ― Eileen Caddy

Set your sights high, the higher the better. 
Expect the most wonderful things to happen, 
not in the future but right now. 
Realize that nothing is too good.
Allow absolutely nothing to hamper you 
or hold you up in any way.

Do you agree?

Your success in life will depend on your commitment to do the things that you don't want to do, but you need to do, to achieve your goals. Raise the bar on yourself. Refuse to take a pass. Give up the excuses and maintain consistency in everyday tasks. Ask yourself this question daily: Am I on course today to achieve my goal? If not, keep the commitment to your commitment. Get focused.

Burn the midnight oil and be willing to sacrifice. It takes discipline, dedication and work to achieve brilliance and mastery in your life by developing your skills, improving your talents and using your gifts. Your future depends on you! You have GREATNESS within you!

Refuse to die before living fully ....

Life really wants you to learn a few lessons, and it will not stop trying to teach you until you learn. What has life been trying to teach you? Life wants you to have gratitude for the gift of living. Treasure every second. Life wants you to know yourself, be yourself and love yourself. You are a beautiful and unique person — a gift to the world. Life wants you to be able to fully receive and give affection and love. Life wants you to know that people are more important than things. Things are only here to be worn-out in the service of our needs and of those we love. Always choose people over things. Life wants you to know that feelings are more important than facts, and you should never hurt someone just to be right. Life wants you to respect yourself, respect other people and respect the planet. Be kind, patient and forgiving. Life wants you to touch, taste and see the grandeur of the world's unfathomable variety. Travel, explore, learn and experience all you can! Life wants you to take proper care of your bodily vehicle, which carries your consciousness everywhere you wish. Life wants you to connect deeply with the hearts of other people — struggle together and rejoice together. Life wants you to thrive in the domain of your own unique creative vision for your yourself. Do not merely submit to the expectations of others or society. Live wants you to be fully supported in your needs and to live in abundance and safety. Life wants you to live in total alignment with true love, passion and integrity. Life is trying to tell you to wake-up! It's not too late. A thrilling, brilliant and electrifying life is yours the moment you wake-up. Proclaim now that you refuse to die without fully living!

Have Faith ....

Rise-up from your sadness, frustration and low spirits, and allow the privilege of life's challenges to be your guiding companion. We are all just humble students of the world. What lesson does this painful majesty have for you today? The teacher can only provide the lessons, but the student ultimately decides what to learn. Life is a procession of painful lessons, and how precious those lessons are; so precious that we rejoice in the bitter-sweet gift of life. If you learn to look at the worldly madness through spiritual eyes, you will begin to see divine balance and sanity. Your suffering is not senseless. Your suffering is here to help you unfold and to awaken into compassion, love and strength.

Crossing the Rubicon of absolute pain is the only journey of purpose and meaning in life. Without your pain you are nothing but a spiritual embryo. Your pain offers you, the student, a choice of how you will receive the lesson. You can choose to let the pain harden your heart even more and close you off to the blessings of life. Or, you can allow the hammer of pain to split open the stone armor of your hardness; exposing the tenderness and beauty of your sweet spirit and sacred heart. Your pain is a divine rite of passage through which you will be reborn as a being of strength, wisdom and purpose. With your new eyes you will see yourself and the world differently. With your new eyes, first look deeply at yourself, and see in yourself the divine architect's incomprehensible art! Your first realization will be that you are beautiful!

Through spiritual maturity you will see new ways to avoid unnecessary suffering; wiser ways to endure unavoidable hardships with grace, and opportunities to turn your pain into lessons of service and healing for others. Your hard journey has had a great purpose! Your pain was always a part of a plan to open your heart to love. Have faith. A miracle is happening in your life; the miracle of pain is transforming you to your highest self.

— Bryant McGill

In your life you may at times feel ....

In your life you may at times feel you have worked so hard, and you have done every single thing you could in your power to earn your way and be a good person. You have given and given and given — trying to never keep a score or be a burden to others. You tried so hard to be selfless and tried to believe that good people are rewarded in the end. You turned your doubts into faith and your anger into love after endless failures and betrayals. You pressed forward with positivity. But, maybe things have not turned out the way you had hoped yet, and you have found yourself in a low place. You looked around and said, "I have helped people, who will help me? I have been so good." In these moments it is tempting to ask, "where is my break; what about karma or God — does anyone care? Is everything in life for nothing? Is any of it worth it?" It is so easy to want to give-up in times of failure and disappointment in what seems like an endless struggle. We can become depressed and dis-couraged, which means we have lost our courage.

In painful moments of dire discouragement, please know that your soul has a resiliency and a capacity to endure suffering that is beyond anything you can imagine. Even the softest and sweetest heart was made by design for extreme battle. Make no mistake about it, no matter how kind, meek, humble and soft your giving heart is — you are a warrior! Your strength is beyond your own imagination. The further you are challenged and threatened, the more your warrior heart will emerge. When you are backed into a corner, or someone you love is suffering, or you are hanging by your fingernails over the edge of ruin with the cold, hungry abyss peering into your soul — the super-human occurs. Billions of years of dormant survival intelligence will erupt from every pore. You don't have to be strong, because the strength is in you; it's in your DNA, in your soul and your essence. You would not believe what skill, power and ability your total intelligence possesses until you are in desperate need. So, do not despair. Have faith. It is going to work out and you will be delivered. You have the heart of a warrior and you were designed to survive! 

Do you Agree?

“We emerge 
into the light 
not by denying 
our pain, 
but by walking 
through it.”
 

This Moment Will Never Happen Again ...

This moment will never happen again. Look around. Cherish your time as you’re living it. 
Work towards something, but enjoy the journey of getting from here to there. Experience each step. Don’t succumb to a vicious cycle of overbearing productivity that forces you to constantly think about every imaginable time and place except right here, right now.

It’s often hard to tell the true value of a moment until it becomes a memory. And someday you will likely discover that the small moments you’re living now are really the big ones worth dreaming about. So learn to appreciate what you HAVE NOW before time forces you appreciate what you HAD THEN.

"We come to know happiness, joy and freedom."

If someone stopped you on the street today and asked if you were happy, what would you say? "Well, gee, let's see... I have a place to live, food in the refrigerator, a job, my car is running... Well, yes, I guess I'm happy," you might respond. These are outward examples of things that many of us have traditionally associated with happiness. We often forget, however, that happiness is a choice; no one can make us happy. 

Happiness is what we find in our involvement with Narcotics Anonymous. The happiness we derive from a life focused on service to the addict who still suffers is great indeed. When we place service to others ahead of our own desires, we find that we take the focus off ourselves. As a result, we live a more contented, harmonious life. In being of service to others, we find our own needs more than fulfilled. 

Happiness. What is it, really? We can think of happiness as contentment and satisfaction. Both of these states of mind seem to come to us when we least strive for them. As we live just for today, carrying the message to the addict who still suffers, we find contentment, happiness, and a deeply meaningful life.




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Be a Light in the Darkness.

We can all do this. Be a light! It can be quite simple. There is plenty of darkness around. Any of us can choose to be a light, wherever we are. Anywhere! It's a choice, but not really. Being a light should not be an option. It should be essential to life. Perhaps it is, really. It's about awareness. It's about mindfulness and opportunity. All around us people are suffering. They have lost hope. They are losing their battles one by one and no longer see a pathway to survival, much less victory. Many have lost so much ground that they can no longer see hope through the darkness of their lives. They have become blind to possibility.

They may be great people who have given much to humanity, yet are suffering their own personal battles, all of which they are losing. They need light. They need hope. They need a reason to go on to find a pathway to possibility. Where will they find it? Who will light their path? It's up to all of us. This should not be a job for therapists and pastors, for counselors, and other "helpers." Caring should be a fundamental of living. Actually in ways it is. It is fundamental to really living.

Some are lost in the darkness of their own selfishness and fear. So fearful and insecure are they that all of their energy is tied up building fortifications to protect themselves from imagined threats that either don't exist, or they have no control over. These acts of self preservation actually work to the contrary of their intended purpose, blocking out the light, love, and hope, that is readily available to all of us.

Too many of us are going through life with no real sense of purpose. Perhaps floundering in jobs we hate, or fighting a losing battle to get ahead, just to cure our insatiable insecurities, and social status, to look like we are getting ahead financially. The problem is the lack of real purpose and action that brings meaning to life. I can think of no greater purpose in life than to be a light to drive away the shadows of another person's dark battlefield. I can think of no greater work than this. Wherever we are, whatever our day to day occupations, our real job, the greater work we all share, though few are aware, is to touch the lives of those around us with hope and faith and love, that those who suffer may have the tools to turn the darkness of despair, to power and possibillity.

We can all do it. No. We must all do it. Being a light is the key to happiness and the source of meaning and purpose. It is being compassionate. It's about being love, and caring for those around us, from a heart of gratitude. It is about having faith in a power greater than us that offers a reason to hope, always. It is not about the labels we put on our faith, or about the religious divisions and who is right or wrong. Those arguments are a sign of selfishness. Time wasted on those things is a distraction from the real mission, that of caring for those around us by being light.

We cannot very well be a light if our lamp is out of fuel. To care for others, we must take care of ourselves first. We must be healthy in every way. The selflessness I speak of is one in which we do not need to be preoccupied with our own needs because we are healthy and not needy or selfish. We are able to go out living at a higher level, with gratitude and abundance. It is a place that is above our own need, and where we can contribute to the greater good.

The important thing is that we live, not to light our own path, but to be a light to those around us. That is the bottom line. It is the essence of spirituality, to have compassion for others and live selflessly from a heart of gratitude. These are the keys to bringing light and hope to others. It's simply taking the time to notice, to stop what we are doing, and to offer a hearing ear and deep understanding, and perhaps, a hand up to someone who has fallen. It may even mean giving the shirt off your back. or giving up a meal so someone else can eat.

Today I have decided to be more conscious, that I may light a pathway to hope for someone else.

Be blessed and inspired today. Be a light in the darkness.

Michael Newcomb

As a Man Thinketh

“Of all the beautiful truths pertaining to the soul that have been restored and brought to light in this age, none is more gladdening or fruitful of divine promise and confidence than this—that you are the master of your thought, the molder of your character, and the maker and shaper of your condition, environment and destiny.”

“Good thoughts and actions can never produce bad results; bad thoughts and actions can never produce good results ... We understand this law in the natural world, and work with it; but few understand it in the mental and moral world—although its operation there is just as simple and unde- viating—and they, therefore, do not cooperate with it.”

“Law, not confusion, is the dominating principle in the universe; jus- tice, not injustice, is the soul and substance of life; and righteousness, not corruption, is the molding and moving force in the spiritual govern- ment of the world. This being so, we have to but right ourselves to find that the universe is right.”

One strange day when you look back (Bryant McGill)

I cannot know your hidden soul
nor your slice of future time

I see you, but for a moment,
as you change before me

Could I but reach that second,
where you once were

To know your unique truth,
but alas you are gone.

And so I chase after you
and grasp at empty air

Where you once stood
I catch the shadow of your last step

I will never catch you darling
but will catch only a glimpse

— from time to time —

I am the past looking at you,
and your eyes are to the future.

When you look back, I see you,
but you are a mystery to me

I am a mystery to you too, a father,
but a man you will hardly know

Until one strange day when you look back,
and see me— as I see you now.

Dont Allow

Don't allow people to control you with the consistency trap. Consistency has been weaponized. Don't let consistency be used against your holistic being and full-spectrum intelligence. You are not illogical. You are not stupid. Being 'smart' is a total spectrum of behaviors; it is about balance — not just intellect. Your opinions matter, and you can even change them! You can say things that are completely wrong and still be a part of a legitimate dialogue. You are an amorphous being and can change your views, opinions, ideas, and beliefs at will and as frequently as you desire. You are allowed to be inconsistent, contradictory and unbound by conventions such as sanity, intelligence or making sense. When you reserve the right to total contradiction and utter hypocrisy, you reserve the self-acceptance to be human.

Life can be difficult at times .....

The truth is that life can be very difficult at times. There can be a lot of pressure to keep it all together, to be smart and beautiful, to be so good and perfect. But sometimes we don't have it together at all. Sometimes we make mistakes. Sometimes we don't feel good or look our best. Sometimes things are not good at all and we feel miserable, lonely or depressed. If you have lost your way and feel down, that feeling belongs to you. If you feel miserable — it's yours, and no one should take it away from you. Maybe things really aren't very good at all right now. Maybe you have good reasons to be depressed, and the last thing you need is someone telling you to be happy.

But one thing you do need, is at least the respect from others to let you sit with your valid feelings. You don't always need a cheerleader, but just someone to be a friend and acknowledge where you really are, and how you really feel. Real problems can't be fixed with a motivational poster, a cute quote or a pat on the back. While you are in your pain, it does not matter how intrinsically special you are, or how beautiful life is, or how precious each moment is — if you don't accept and respect your suffering, it isn't going anywhere. Submit to your pain; don't suppress your pain. If you can sit with your pain, listen to your pain and respect your pain — in time you will move through your pain.

Pain is like a healing emotional fever. Allow your pain to cleanse you and burn away what needs to die. A new and better you will grow from the ashes. The most important parts of your life will be marked by pain. Some of the most amazing people in the world were not perfect; they were scarred by suffering, hardships, losses and imperfections. But, when they recovered, they were stronger, wiser, and more loving and compassionate. Your life is going to get better in the proper time, and you will be stronger and more at peace than ever before. Out of our suffering we emerge. Our struggles are really our only hope. Stay strong.

Loving and Respecting

Loving and respecting others means allowing them to be themselves. When you stop expecting people to be a certain way, you can begin to appreciate THEM.

Pay close attention, and respect people for who they are and not for who you want them to be. We don’t know most people half as well as we believe we do; and truly knowing someone is a big part of what makes them wonderful. Every human being is remarkable and beautiful; it just takes a patient set of eyes to see it. The more you get to know someone, the more you will be able to look beyond their appearance and see the beauty of who they truly are.

Each Moment of gratitude awareness reveals the total beauty which surrounds you!

No external thing will ever make you happy or complete you.

No external thing or person is ever coming to you, which will make you happy or complete you. As long as you are waiting for something to make you happy—happiness will never come. Expectancy creates disappointment. Chasing the external to achieve joy is a death-trap for personal-development. The external only creates dependency. The foundation of joyful independence is being content with yourself; self-love. You're the one you've been looking for; you complete you. Recognize that you are enough, and that all external gifts are simply extra blessings. Praise first the mighty blessing of yourself! Find your own joy within and then greater joy will be added to you.

The paradise you seek is a frame of mind. Each moment of gratitude awareness reveals the total beauty which surrounds you. Each step on the beautiful path of gratitude awareness moves you toward your life's highest possibility. The gift of life is present at every moment—even moments that seem insignificant or unpleasant. You will be blessed the moment you realize you already are. Start the daily practice of joyful living. Start walking now on the beautiful path already before you.

The Truth can do years of work in seconds

If your situation seems impossible at least look it straight in the eye, because having painful truth is better than a pleasant lie. Pleasant lies just perpetuate your problems. People tend to think they want success, progress, happiness and peace more than anything, but really deep-down, people want the truth. People have given-up everything and even died for the truth. But the truth only comes if you are willing to face some really unpleasant things about yourself. You have to dig deep inside of yourself and have a look at your old resentments, judgments, insecurities and fears. All of these ugly, hidden things are how we lie to ourselves. We lie about how tomorrow will be no different, and how we can't, and how they don't like us, how we aren't worthy and how we're finished and it's impossible. And then there is the worst lie of all — that we are unlovable. This is how a person who is paralyzed by lies thinks.

The truth can set you free, but when it comes, it's more like a wrecking-ball than a holy beam of illumination. Truth can be terrifying. If you're brave enough to follow truth it will shatter you and your illusions at the same time. If you are not taking proper care of yourself, you need to be broken, because you are probably set in your ways like concrete. Don't live a lie any more. Come clean. Let it out. The truth can do years of work in seconds. Once you let the truth loose it is like setting a fire that you can't stop. Let the fires of truth burn away your false life and your excuses, fears, blaming, doubts and illusions of insignificance. Accept that through truth — tomorrow will most certainly be different! Accept that you can and will do what you must do, to take good care of yourself. Accept that there are people who will like you for who you really are. Accept that you are not finished, and a new and better life is just beginning. All of this is possible through accepting the truth that you are worthy of good things, and you are a deserving and beautiful person.

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