Caroline Myss

Surrendering the need for an explanation represents a profound act of personal transformation. What you are releasing is the need for God or the heavens or the Divine to explain the events of your life in a rational way, as if the heavens operated according to the laws of our land and the rules of human interaction. Surrender represents a course correction of our belief that others are responsible for our life and, more to the point, for our pain and failures. It also represents a supreme act of faith that states, "With you, God, all things are possible, including my healing." In saying that prayer, however, you leave it to God to chart the course of possibilities for your healing. As the saying goes, all our prayers are answered, but sometimes the answer is no.

Value is your way out of the trap

You better have some skills in this world. You better bring something to the dinner party or you will be the dinner. You will either have value, or be grist for the mill — nothing more. I know it seems so unfair. I didn't make the rules. The truth is that the world doesn't have much use or respect for "do nothing" people. Can you really blame them? Take some pride in yourself. Get to work. Read everything you can get your hands on. Acquire several skills and find at least one that you can master, and that earns you respect. Let your skills do the talking. Get determined. This world is bursting with opportunity. Maybe it's time you re-invent yourself and try again. Get going. Don't cheat the world or yourself of what you have to offer. You must cultivate value within yourself if you want to move forward. If you feel trapped quit thinking about the trap and start thinking about your value. Life favors value. Value is your way out.

Do you want to prosper? What do you prosper the world? Do you want to flourish in the garden of life? Life's gardeners pluck the weeds and care only for the productive plants. The quality of your life hinges on your attitudes and offerings. Become a gift in the lives of others and you will always be well received. If you want more opportunities you have to become an opportunity for others. As you advance yourself your opportunities advance too. It's so simple. Get to work on yourself. The harder you work on yourself the more the external things you couldn't change, will change on their own. Cultivating your value proposition in life is the way to move forward. You are the raw material of your own destiny.

Gracefully following through natural conflict

Conflict is a natural part of existence. Life is a struggle for survival for every organism at every level. Everyone must "fight" for something at times, though some struggle more than others, and often unnecessarily. Brute force will sometimes get you through a challenge, but usually not without hurting and depleting yourself in the process. Brute physical, intellectual and emotional conflict often causes a great deal of collateral damage. There are gentler and more graceful ways to interface with natural conflict. As you spiritually mature you will begin to look at conflict in less self-centered ways. You will realize that engagement is an option. There is an enlightened way to flow with, in, and through conflict. Learn to resist but do not be un-moveable in your resistance. Resist like the water. Flow. You don't have to win. You don't have to be right. You don't always have to teach the the corrective lesson. Sometimes you can teach the lesson of patience and non-engagement. Be wise. Sometimes it is best to stand back from conflict and allow other elements in someone's life to do the hard work for you. Time is a masterful teacher. Silence is a masterful teacher. When we want to talk, we can instead listen, and let our attentiveness to another's need to speak, be our silent statement. But whatever you do, always do it in love and not anger, and in compassion, not contempt.

When someone is attacking you, they are coming to you for advice. How you react advises them. When someone is vicious toward you they are giving you a glimpse of the pain they carry in themselves. The way you engage someone's pain either reinforces their pain or helps to release it. Be gentle when you can. If you are strong and safe within yourself then be patient and teach your virtues by your calm example. Try to be less reactive. Try to be very kind to yourself and others. Start with one departure from your negative and reactive habits. Instead of assuming, which creates pain and suffering for everyone, be open, curious and expect cooperation. Learn to be light. Have you ever tried to catch a tiny feather floating in the air? It's very hard to do. When you try to grab a tiny floating feather it just flies right around your hand! The more violently you grasp the faster the wind carries it away. In your heart and disposition, be as light as a feather and when they reach for you — you will blow right by their grip; you will effortlessly flow to safety. Be as light as that feather. Have a smile of calm in your heart. Be peaceful. When you walk in peace you will literally see attackers shattering themselves against your inner-calm. They will defeat themselves.

You are being guided when you need it most

What does it even mean when people tell us that we are powerful? We certainly don't feel powerful at times. Being powerful means shifting our minds away from our troubles and into solution-thinking. We can access amazing inner-strengths by focusing on solutions rather than problems. But people often only focus and meditate on their problems, fears, worries and anxieties; playing out endless negative scenarios in their minds. This effectively disables their minds innately brilliant problem solving ability. If you relax your mind, it can begin working for you. Your total intelligence knows how to accomplish astounding feats. You just need a clear objective. Get clear. You will surprise yourself! The answer to your problems is to move forward and believe in yourself, which can seem like risk, but it's not — it's trust. Stretching, reaching and fully embracing your problems head-on will activate your untapped abilities. You would not believe what skill, power and ability your total intelligence possesses until you lose your balance. So stretch! Reach for it. Like falling down stairs, where your inner-genius takes over and saves you — your instincts are ready to serve you. But you have put yourself at risk to activate your instinctual genius.

If your options are closing-in around you and you feel panicked, scared and helpless, this is the time for action. Your greatest moments of challenge are a call to defy your timid habits of safety and rush out into life. This is the time to go out, socialize, meet new people, be around friends and embrace living. When you feel the crushing pressure and you feel paralyzed, don't lay in bed and cover your head with the blanket. This is the time to open your windows, let the sunshine in and breathe the fresh air. Do something profoundly irresponsible like forgetting about your problems for a while: go to a movie, go for a walk, create some art or spend time with a sweet friend. Act as though everything will be perfectly fine — because it will. Life has you and it's not letting you go. Only the frantic of fear can harm you. Your calm and centered self knows exactly what to do. In the moments of your deepest need, despair and desperation, what you need more than any other thing, is calm and faith. Your calm mind is the ultimate weapon against your challenges. So relax. Have faith in your abilities. You are being guided when you need it most — if you will just listen.

You are being guided when you need it most ....!

What does it even mean when people tell us that we are powerful? We certainly don't feel powerful at times. Being powerful means shifting our minds away from our troubles and into solution-thinking. We can access amazing inner-strengths by focusing on solutions rather than problems. But people often only focus and meditate on their problems, fears, worries and anxieties; playing out endless negative scenarios in their minds. This effectively disables their minds innately brilliant problem solving ability. If you relax your mind, it can begin working for you. Your total intelligence knows how to accomplish astounding feats. You just need a clear objective. Get clear. You will surprise yourself! The answer to your problems is to move forward and believe in yourself, which can seem like risk, but it's not — it's trust. Stretching, reaching and fully embracing your problems head-on will activate your untapped abilities. You would not believe what skill, power and ability your total intelligence possesses until you lose your balance. So stretch! Reach for it. Like falling down stairs, where your inner-genius takes over and saves you — your instincts are ready to serve you. But you have put yourself at risk to activate your instinctual genius.

If your options are closing-in around you and you feel panicked, scared and helpless, this is the time for action. Your greatest moments of challenge are a call to defy your timid habits of safety and rush out into life. This is the time to go out, socialize, meet new people, be around friends and embrace living. When you feel the crushing pressure and you feel paralyzed, don't lay in bed and cover your head with the blanket. This is the time to open your windows, let the sunshine in and breathe the fresh air. Do something profoundly irresponsible like forgetting about your problems for a while: go to a movie, go for a walk, create some art or spend time with a sweet friend. Act as though everything will be perfectly fine — because it will. Life has you and it's not letting you go. Only the frantic of fear can harm you. Your calm and centered self knows exactly what to do. In the moments of your deepest need, despair and desperation, what you need more than any other thing, is calm and faith. Your calm mind is the ultimate weapon against your challenges. So relax. Have faith in your abilities. You are being guided when you need it most — if you will just listen.

Faith is your only hope for deliverance by Bryant McGill

There is nothing worse than fear. Fear is worse than cancer, fear is worse than torture, fear is worse than betrayal and fear is even worse than death. Even death itself is made wretched by terror and fear. Fear paralyzes your total being. Imagine a man walking in the woods late at night beginning to panic. He is hyperventilating, spinning-around looking in every direction. He cannot hear what is near him for his own breathing. His heart is racing. He is discombobulated and walking in circles. Predators from afar detect his fear and move-in on him; he is bringing about his own reality. This is how many people move through life. They struggle in fear and alert every evil to come. Everything in life will attack you if it senses your fear; animals, people — but faithful confidence wards off all manner of evil.

Imagine the man lost in the woods who is composed and confident. He accepts he is lost but trusts and leans on his instincts. He is not panicked. His hearing is acute. He is steady and thoughtful. His mind and senses are unclouded and delivering life-saving information. He walks straight and devises plans and systems to stay on course. What is the difference between the fearful person and the fearless person? One has delivered himself to destruction and one to salvation. The fearful person wilts and submits to what they call fate. The fearless negotiates with fate for a compromise. The fearful have lost faith while the fearless allow faith to lead the way. You have to have faith if you want to make it out of the woods. Faith is your only hope for deliverance. Faith is your North Star. Fear is always death. Faith is life. Have faith and your victory is assured.

You Deserve !

Say YES to a bigger life. Experience the fear of making the decision. Then, DO IT. Make the decision to live from a place of power, rather than fear. Make the decision to be true to yourself, to live a life of no regrets.

What people think of you is none of your business. Hold yourself in higher regard. Approve of yourself. Give yourself permission to do what you always wanted to do...because You Deserve.

Experience & Ability

If money is your hope for independence.. you will never have it.. 

The only real security that a man will have in this world is.. 

A reserve of knowledge, 

Experience

And,

Ability.. !!


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You were always stronger than your fear and pain

There is an intelligent healing process inside of you that knows how to absorb pain and transform it into wisdom. But to heal, you have to give yourself to the pain. You cannot avoid facing yourself your whole life. If you avoid your truthful emotions and pain you will implode and contract into a diminished and feeble state. Growth and empowerment requires reflection and facing the frightening, ugly, hard and unbearable reality. People are often clever masters at fooling themselves and not seeing the obvious right in front of them. One of the fastest ways to move through your pain is to get a grip on reality. Real transformation requires real honesty. If you want to move forward — get real with yourself!

When you are avoiding your pain you are really only avoiding your growth. Get up in your pain's face eyeball to eyeball and say, "I'm not afraid of you!" The biggest liar you will ever meet is yourself. It is amazing the lies we tell ourselves because of fear. Stop your lying-mind dead in its tracks; no more running in frantic circles of nonsensical denial. No more blaming. No more neglecting. No more dodging and running. Suck it up. Swallow it. The only end to your pain is through fully consuming it and digesting it, otherwise it will consume you. When you face your fears in the light of openness and honesty they will vanish. We carry many of these dark fears inside of us; frightening forms of mental obstacles that cast shadows on every beautiful possibility.

It is tragic the way fearful people put all of their fears and insecurities into others; the way they strangle their dreams — often in the name of love. Some people run from pain their whole lives, and what pain they do not digest they inflict upon others. You can't run from your pain forever. Avoiding pain causes endless suffering for you and others. Avoiding pain is really selfishness. When you face your pain you will discover you were always stronger than your pain. Your pain was always a fraud; appearing inescapable, unsurmountable and even necessary and a friend. The time has come to say goodbye to the afflictions you have been carrying, nurturing, protecting and empowering. When you truly face your pain you will only see yourself. Your fear was always you. Fear is a prison where you are the jailer. Free yourself! Anything you want is just beyond your fear. Your healing hour has arrived the moment you decide to live fully and powerfully. That moment is now.

Stop mistreating yourself. Be good to yourself. Love Yourself. by Bryant McGill

There is nothing worse than a treacherous, backstabbing double-talker running you down. It is hard to believe it when we have been treated with such disloyalty. Betrayal by those we trust can send us boiling into a panic of anxiety and pain. Just imagine a close friend or relative talking behind your back and whispering about your failures; prognosticating your doom and undermining your best efforts to lift yourself up. This bully is well informed and knows all of your past mistakes, and knows how to use those mistakes against you — a two-faced bully with a fake smile, concealing a tongue like a switch-blade knife. Even worse, what do you do when the traitor is a very close relative; so closely related, that in fact, the betrayer — is you? That's right, you; the voice in your head whispering that, "you aren't good enough; you don't deserve it and you can't!" Maybe the self-inflicted battering is a more subtle, "what will people think, or I don't want to disappoint…", or a clever "helpful" bump to just "try later, there's always tomorrow." Then there is the foulest pummeling; a total beat-down by oneself and to oneself, "You're fat. You're stupid. You're a loser. I hate you! I wish you were dead!"

Maybe you never considered yourself a bully, a batterer or an abuser before, but maybe you are — to yourself. The worst bullies you will ever encounter in your life are your own thoughts. Being overly critical of yourself is like having a relentless, inescapable bully who follows you everywhere you go and abuses you. The worst part about this type of bully is that you can't get rid of them, because it's you. You have to reach out to your inner-abuser and make peace. You can't live your life as your own worst enemy! Go to a mirror and look yourself in the eye, and make peace with yourself. Commit this day to putting your self-hatred and unreasonable doubts and fears behind you once and for all. You are your own essential ally. Get right with yourself. When that inner-voice of doubt whispers against you, have a firm but sweet conversation with yourself, and exert your faith. Healing is a process and could take some time, but begin convincing yourself of your worthiness — no more abuse! Deep in your heart, you know you are good. Your heart knows you are deserving. Your heart knows you are worthy. Your heart knows you are capable. Speak kindly to and of yourself. When the voices of doubt start whispering, turn-up the volume of faith and listen to your heart.

You Have GREATNESS Within You!

Work on changing yourself. There may be times in life when you won't know what's ahead, and you can't control the situations that life throws you in. At the end of the day, despite what happens to you...what matters most is what happens in you.

Make it your business to stay positive and focused on what you see as the best possible outcome for your life. Do the inner work that will help you to maintain a positive attitude, a stronger faith and courage for the road ahead. Remember that miracles are always possible and are waiting for you to discover them. You have GREATNESS within you!